Two questions for you:
+ When was the last time you met up with a new friend and didn't know ANYTHING about them, their family, their opinions, their homes, etc?
+ When was the last time you created something ridiculously beautiful and didn't share it on the internet?
For me, both of these answers are: it's been a while.
I had become so used to meeting someone, immediately finding each other on social media, and then quickly "learning" about them by seeing their families, reading their views and opinions, seeing the insides of their homes, etc. Being able to walk into our new friends' home for the first time and experience all of the above mentioned in real life was refreshing. Friendship used to be a privilege that was gradually built over time and filled with surprises, but lately it feels instant and to be expected -- already knowing about someone, their family, their opinions, and every corner of their home before ever spending a single minute with them.
I once felt more fulfilled using instagram. It felt fun to share photos of myself, my family, and my home. From the growing following, to the compliments, to the sharing, to building a side business, to the messages I receive from people telling me I helped or encouraged them in some way, and myself finding inspiration and encouragement from others too. These were my justification of why Instagram is a good thing. It can be a good thing, I can't deny that. However, the feelings I have towards this platform lately are more negative than positive (in a 60/40 kind of way). Realizing that my existence and my real life friendship to offer feels less valuable the more I share on instagram. Likewise, the value of my babies and my home. It's become "normal" to share what used to be intimate and private. While I think sharing encouraging words and being able to so easily access relatability can be extremely beneficial by using social media, I also think it causes us to lose sight of a more tangible life.
Another question I have been asking myself and wondering of others:
What is the point of having our own unique profiles and instagram feeds if we are taking polls (of other peoples opinions and decision making) to base what we will share, say, or do on our blogs and in our lives? What happened to being who YOU are and saying what YOU feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind? (Thank you Dr. Suess)
You can love everyone but not everyone will love you. That's okay. That's normal. That's healthy.
You can be good at a lot of things but you can't be good at all the things. That's okay. That's normal. That's healthy.
Some people will follow and some people won't. That's okay. That's normal. That's healthy.
Less is more.
This is a WE not a YOU. I'm not writing this with my finger pointed at someone, because there would be three pointing back at me. I'm not here to say life is better without instagram and I'm not here to say life is better with it. I'm not trying to lessen the benefit of finding common ground with likeminded people and the countless other benefits it can bring. The reason I am writing this is so I can remember these thoughts and feelings I'm having and the reason I am sharing this publicly is because I don't think I'm the only one who can benefit from reading this.